Sunday, January 22, 2012
Monday, January 2, 2012
Questions
One of my friends is beginning a website about HIV and has asked me to share my blogs, pics and artwork...along with, she is asking a couple of questions to all who are sharing on her website...
1) What has living with HIV taught you?
Living with HIV... Well, it is better than dying with HIV... I am still the same person I ever was. Smarter, in a sense because I am more cautious with what or who I allow in my life. Not for fear, but for my State of Mind. I have learned more about my self-worth and I understand my value.
Just the other night, I was over at a cousins house. She has known my status since the beginning, as have her entire household. The kids and her husband...They have never treated me different and the kids have been inquisitive, in a good way...
I was sharing, with my cousin about some HIV POZ folks who only date other HIV POZ folks...and she immmediatly stated that those POZ folks who did that were doing the right thing...
That did not sit well with me...am I not allowed to pursue a person I want to be with? Despite how she still loves me, she is not supportive of POZ folks dating NEG folks... and it boils down to education. She even went so far as to ask me if the NEG men who are interested in me, are actually POZ...because in her mind, she cannot fathom how anyone NEG could even desire to be sexual with a POZ...
It boils down to protection. Anyone can get this. Even if two supposedly NEGative people are having sex...when one goes and has unprotected sex with a stranger...and then returns to the relationship...there is a chance of contracting HIV... Me having HIV and knowing, is Knowledge. By knowledge and education, I will do everying in my power to ensure that no one contracts this from me...I am still a person. I am still the same person that I ever was and no one, has the right to take that from me... I have the right to pursue happiness...and if happiness happens to be with a NEG or POZ...then so be it...My choice...their choice...and our lives...
~and~ even POZ to POZ sex has danger...one POZ person can give another POZ person a new strain of the virus...so, the answer does not lie in POZ to POZ, rather LOVE to LOVE...
I choose love...always...
2) If you could change one thing in our fight for HIV what would it be?
I would change the education at the public/private schools. So many people think OMG, how can you teach children about this disease and sex...well, heck...most schools begin the puberty class in the 4th grade...and the sex class in the 5th grade...by then, kids are wanting to experiment... we are sexual beings...we put things in places because it feels good and we touch things because it cause a tremble of excitment... and then we want to do it again and again. We can teach kids about protection, all day...and the risk of disease...the risk of pregnancy...and still, kids will do what kids do...they will experiment...and think about it...most of us reading this have children.. Most children happen from unprotected sex...or a broken condom...look around at the kids...change them to and STD and double that...all it takes is one person coupling with another person to spread a disease...or create a child...Look at all the children...and then consider the risk of disease...consider the risk you have put in your life, all for a cheap thrill...all because you don't like to use a condom...
Education is the key to survival...and we need to educate in an extreme and real way...because life is extreme...Life is real...
and, nothing...sugarcoats HIV...Nothing
1) What has living with HIV taught you?
Living with HIV... Well, it is better than dying with HIV... I am still the same person I ever was. Smarter, in a sense because I am more cautious with what or who I allow in my life. Not for fear, but for my State of Mind. I have learned more about my self-worth and I understand my value.
Just the other night, I was over at a cousins house. She has known my status since the beginning, as have her entire household. The kids and her husband...They have never treated me different and the kids have been inquisitive, in a good way...
I was sharing, with my cousin about some HIV POZ folks who only date other HIV POZ folks...and she immmediatly stated that those POZ folks who did that were doing the right thing...
That did not sit well with me...am I not allowed to pursue a person I want to be with? Despite how she still loves me, she is not supportive of POZ folks dating NEG folks... and it boils down to education. She even went so far as to ask me if the NEG men who are interested in me, are actually POZ...because in her mind, she cannot fathom how anyone NEG could even desire to be sexual with a POZ...
It boils down to protection. Anyone can get this. Even if two supposedly NEGative people are having sex...when one goes and has unprotected sex with a stranger...and then returns to the relationship...there is a chance of contracting HIV... Me having HIV and knowing, is Knowledge. By knowledge and education, I will do everying in my power to ensure that no one contracts this from me...I am still a person. I am still the same person that I ever was and no one, has the right to take that from me... I have the right to pursue happiness...and if happiness happens to be with a NEG or POZ...then so be it...My choice...their choice...and our lives...
~and~ even POZ to POZ sex has danger...one POZ person can give another POZ person a new strain of the virus...so, the answer does not lie in POZ to POZ, rather LOVE to LOVE...
I choose love...always...
2) If you could change one thing in our fight for HIV what would it be?
I would change the education at the public/private schools. So many people think OMG, how can you teach children about this disease and sex...well, heck...most schools begin the puberty class in the 4th grade...and the sex class in the 5th grade...by then, kids are wanting to experiment... we are sexual beings...we put things in places because it feels good and we touch things because it cause a tremble of excitment... and then we want to do it again and again. We can teach kids about protection, all day...and the risk of disease...the risk of pregnancy...and still, kids will do what kids do...they will experiment...and think about it...most of us reading this have children.. Most children happen from unprotected sex...or a broken condom...look around at the kids...change them to and STD and double that...all it takes is one person coupling with another person to spread a disease...or create a child...Look at all the children...and then consider the risk of disease...consider the risk you have put in your life, all for a cheap thrill...all because you don't like to use a condom...
Education is the key to survival...and we need to educate in an extreme and real way...because life is extreme...Life is real...
and, nothing...sugarcoats HIV...Nothing
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