Sometime, the words I hear from the mouths of those I hold dear…amazes me. I have a great friend. I have known him since I was 19 years old. We dated for a while and I realized he was a total ASS, to women…I ended the relationship. Years later, we ran into one another again and began a lasting friendship. I told him, we could never be intimate yet I believe he could be a great friend. He has proven to be a wonderful friend to me…He is one of the first people I told about my disease and he has been wonderfully supportive!
What I want to vent about, is the way he is in his relationships and the things he says~~~~
He began seeing a woman several years ago. She is a nice woman, sometimes: when she isn't on crack…LOL, really. One of the issues in their relationship is his fidelity. He refuse to be faithful to her. Some folks get off on open relationships. This guy, wants to be able to sleep with whomever he wants and his girlfriend cannot. He also expects her to accept him the way he is…except he does all of his cheating behind a lie. He lies to her and says that he is not cheating. He has at least three other women dangling from a string at all times. He builds them up with words of love and the knocks the love down and then comes back in like a screwed up hero to caress their tears and feed on their insecurity.
I always call him out on this behavior. I always tell him to stop. Many women over the years have called me to ask for advice about staying involved with him. I never lie. I don't tell them blatantly that he is cheating. I do, however tell them that if they are not happy now, they will not be happy later. Do what makes you happy. Needless to say, this last girlfriend of his, broke his "heart". She was tired of all his BS…
So, he says to me…what is wrong with me…I have a job, I have a car, I have been tested and I am clean… I am a great catch.
I looked at him and said…No…you are not a good catch and are you trying to imply that I am not clean. Seriously. You are a dick. You treat women like shit. Why would any woman want to stay involved with a man who treats them like shit. I on the other hand am an amazing catch. I might have a disease…but, I am honest and loving and I don't treat people like shit. There are way too many folks out there being assholes…you want a good woman, start being honest and it might happen.
Last week, he told me that he had been "sleeping" with his neighbor and he called to see what she was doing and her reply was, I have been sick all morning, puking… His first thought was OH NO… she is pregnant because he has not used a condom with her. While he is telling me this story, I am fuming…so angry…MAD. I said STOP… Why are you not keeping your shit covered! You know what happened to me. You KNOW! Why are you not protecting yourself…and if you don't want kids…damn… PROTECT yourself and the woman you are sleeping with! Needless to say…she is not pregnant… just had the flu…Thank goodness!
Two days ago, he tells me that he has started talking to his ex again. Like I said, she is nice and she deserves someone to treat her well and with love. So I told him, You are not allowed to ever talk bad about her again and if you are going to be involved with her then you have to be faithful. Treat her right. Then he proceeds to tell me about another woman he met. I cut him off… and said, if you are going to start seeing your ex again, you are not allowed to tell me anything about any other woman, ever again. I am tired of this.
He thanked me, profusely. He even told me what I said was exactly what he needed to hear….
Why can't people treat people right. Why is he so good to me and when he is involved with someone, sexually…he turns into a complete and total ass….???? What is it with us… We are a screwed up race of people… I know…not all of us are like this…but, damn…I see so many people settling for toxic relationships… I cannot settle. I am still mad at him.
